You Don’t Have to Be Great at Everything
I used to think I had to be good at everything.
Every skill, every tool, every part of my job. That huge pressure was everywhere and in everything, to know more, learn faster, stay ahead. But all it did was stretch me thin and leave me chasing approval instead of impact. Not to mention a significant therapy bill.
With time, I realised that me trying to master everything only weakens my real strengths. The shift happened when I stopped asking what else should I learn and started asking what feels right for me to build on.
Now I focus on depth, not breadth. On becoming stronger in the areas that match my energy, my curiosity and my natural rhythm. I’ve learned that excellence comes from focus, not perfection.
What changed for me
Once I accepted that I don’t need to know it all, I became better at what I actually do best, connecting people, shaping ideas, bringing clarity where there’s noise.
Letting go of perfectionism made space for creativity, rest and joy. It made space for being human.
A reminder for all women in tech (and not only)
You don’t have to be the best at everything. You have to know what makes you come alive and lead from there. Confidence grows when you work from your strengths, not when you hide your weaknesses.
Try this - Practical tips
Identify your top three strengths
Take a few minutes today to list three things you do well, the skills that come naturally. Then write one line about how you can use each of them more intentionally this week.Set boundaries around “everything”
When you’re asked to take on a new task, pause and ask: Does this align with one of my strengths or values? If not, practise saying no or reshaping your involvement.Reflect and iterate
At the end of the week, review what felt good and what drained you. Use that reflection to plan your next week with more intention.
Journaling prompt
What are the three contributions only I can make, given my unique combination of skills, experience and values?
How will I practise one of these contributions this week?
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What are the strengths you want to focus on next? Share your thoughts in the comments or inside The S.E.L.F. Factory Circle, where women in tech grow through reflection and honest conversation.
